10 Wedding Traditions to Ditch

10 Wedding Traditions to Ditch

Why Stick to Tradition?

Weddings are a celebration of love and commitment, but that doesn't mean you have to follow every tradition in the book. In fact, breaking away from some wedding traditions can add a unique and personal touch to your special day. So, why not put a modern twist on your wedding and make it truly unforgettable? After all, it is YOUR wedding!

1. Ditching the White Dress

Who says you have to wear white on your wedding day? Break away from tradition and choose a dress that reflects your personal style and personality. Whether it's a colorful gown, a sleek jumpsuit, or a chic pantsuit, the options are endless. Remember, it's your day, and you should feel comfortable and confident in whatever you choose to wear. If wearing white on your big day is a must, consider slipping away from white attire on other bridal events such as bachelorette party, bridal shower, or rehearsal. 

2. Non-Traditional Venues

Instead of the traditional church or banquet hall, consider hosting your wedding at a unique venue that holds special meaning to you and your partner. It could be a beach, a park, a museum, or even your own backyard. Think outside the box and let your creativity shine through. Don't over stress where your wedding is- pick a location and make it special! Your memories of your wedding day likely won't be glossed with the venue specifically- it will be about how you felt on your special day!

3. Personalized Vows

Instead of reciting traditional vows, take the opportunity to write your own. Personalized vows are a beautiful way to express your love and commitment to each other. Share your favorite memories, promises, and dreams for the future. Your guests will be touched by the heartfelt words and the unique connection you share. Read how to write your own wedding vows.

4. Mix and Match Bridal Party

Break away from the traditional bridal party setup and mix it up. Have your closest friends and family members stand by your side, regardless of their gender or relationship to you. This inclusive approach not only breaks gender norms but also allows you to honor the people who mean the most to you.

5. Alternative Guestbooks

Instead of a traditional guestbook, consider opting for something more interactive and memorable. Have your guests write their well wishes on small cards and place them in a decorative jar or frame. You can also set up a photo booth where guests can take fun pictures and leave a message alongside their photo.

6. Unique Food and Drinks

Forget the standard chicken or beef options. Get creative with your wedding menu and offer unique and personalized food and drink choices. Consider a food station with different cuisines, signature cocktails that reflect your personalities, or even a dessert bar with a variety of sweet treats. Your guests will appreciate the unexpected culinary delights.

7. Party Favors

Instead of traditional wedding party favors, consider skipping entirely or think of a unique way to say thanks as your guest leave your wedding. Consider sending a few pictures in your thank you cards or mentioning the guests are free to take the wedding flowers present at the guest tables. Wedding favors are expensive and even if you make your own wedding favors, they often are forgotten. Don't stress and waste your time handing out another wedding coozie, candy bag, or bubbles.

8. Skip the Rehearsal Dinner

A rehearsal is typically required the day before the wedding to ensure that everyone knows when to walk and where. But who says you need to spend time after the fact? Wedding rehearsals are stressful - especially when the bride is swamped with questions. Break the tradition of a typical rehearsal dinner. Why waste more money on feeding people the night before? Take time for yourself, draw a bubble bath, and catch some extra zzzz's.

9. Table Arrangements

One big expense in weddings are table arrangements such as wedding flowers, vases, etc. Opt out and choose a bare, minimal look. Plus, not many people remember what kind of table decorations the bride and groom had. Very few people remember this detail that can seem like a big one to the bride, but often times is missed. 

10. Stay Together the Night Before

It's in all the movies, media, and one of the most popular wedding traditions- Don't stay together the night before the wedding. But if you don't want to do this- don't! There is no harm in staying in together the night before the wedding. The bride and groom typically have jam packed plans the day of the wedding, so spend your last night together as the fiance'!


Your wedding day should be a reflection of your love and individuality. Breaking away from traditional wedding norms allows you to create a unique and memorable experience for both you and your guests. So, don't be afraid to break a few wedding traditions and put your own modern twist on the big day. After all, it's your love story, and it deserves to be celebrated in a way that feels true to you.

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